Adulting in 2020 Pt. 6
2020.51 Know You Are Good Enough
Why this matters: In a world of fake lives, materialistic values, and the social pressure to aesthetically perform, many of us forget that we are loved, worthy, and valuable before we even wake up in the morning. We loose sight of the beauty within and focus on our external and material worth. We want to be ‘influencers’ by having the best wardrobe, or traveling to the coolest places when we already have the ability to influence those around us through small acts everyday.
In this new year, ground yourself and know that you are good enough.
Then encourage and empower others.
Remind them they are good enough.
What you can do:
- Write yourself a love letter
- Look in the mirror and say “I am good enough”
- Appreciate one good thing about yourself each day. Make today’s appreciation different than yesterday’s
- Be the first to forgive your mistakes in any situation
- Give yourself a judgement free zone. Pick one thing that you do or have that you will not judge
Resources:
As I was planning out my new year, I wrote out my 50 goals. Well, really 49 because I was stuck on No37, Know Thyself.
I couldn’t think of what I could do to better know myself. Ironically I asked a friend. “If you thought there was one thing I should work one this year, what would it be?”
They said the following:
Be okay with doing less — spend time each week enjoying your free time. Work on seeking people’s approval less
Great! So I plugged it into my running list, right there at the 37th bullet point. Then before presenting them to you, I showed them all to my friend for feedback.
“Interesting….”, they said. “Why is Know Thyself number 37 on the list? I feel like this should be the most important goal.”
(I began to explain how the number didn’t have any weight and I had randomly put all of these working principles in a list, but I also knew that they were right.)
Here I was making a list of 50 new things I am going to do this year and the 37th thing was do less things. That doesn’t work.
So as much as I wanted to present 50 things I was going to push myself to accomplish so I could show how I am a super woman, I have instead narrowed down my list to 10 things I am going to do really well.
For your own journey, I hope you can learn from my moment of unfocused ambition and my friend’s wise advise and put yourself first. Lessen the load, hone in and focus on doing a few things really well. Choose a few valid goals from the list and master those, then add in a few more.
As scary as it is for me to do less and still believe I am ok,
Know you are super, know you are good enough.
We can both work on this together.
50 Working Principles
(for your reference)
- Have Good Posture
- Drink Water
- Go Unrecognized
- Laugh & Play
- Be Driven By Your Values
- Be Honest
- Know How To Communicate
- Feel Your Feelings
- Tie Up Loose Ends
- Poop Daily
- Meditate Daily
- Have Gratitude
- Be Proactive
- Lead Through Small Acts
- Prepare & Plan Ahead
- Hold People Accountable
- Seek Feedback
- Think Things Through
- Take Risks
- Get Good Sleep
- Clean Up
- Move Your Body
- Build a Routine
- Manage Your Time
- You Matter, Take Care
- Prioritize Your Tasks
- Be a Good Friend
- Keep Track
- Mentor Someone
- Find a Mentor
- Organize Your Shizniz
- Learn Something New Everyday
- Contribute
- Get Gritty & Work Hard
- Forgive
- Know Your History
- Know Thyself
- Be a Strict Shopper
- Get Out of Your Bubble
- Try New Things
- Live Sustainably
- Focus & Excel
- Do Something Meaningful at Any Age
- Take Notes
- Be Beautiful & Be Nice
- Advocate for Others
- Toot Your Own Horn
- Take Care of Someone or Something
- Count Your Blessings
- Freak Out
My Goals
Here are my personal goals for the new year. Some are tough challenges and some are easy tasks, some require great discipline and some are one-time projects, but all of them have been thought through and put into place to help me accomplish my largest goal: to always keep growing — to be empowered and a more refined person than I was the day before. With beauty & grace, I hope to meet my own expectations. With humility and grit, I hope to exceed the expectations of others.
- Pay off all students loans and debts by EOY while saving 10% and tithing another 1%
- Work with KWK to create a graphic programming manual
- Mentor new teachers and assist them in finding good jobs through TFA
- Maintain a regular routine involving regular wake up and bed time, meditation, stretching, gratitude, prayer, journaling, working out, good eating (no sugar or spice), drinking water, breathing, posture checks, emotional check ins, next day planning, tracking with a bullet journal, shoe cleaning, comedy, and task prioritization
- Write a weekly blog post
- Work on my degree
- Write a book about my teaching experience
- Learn Piano
- Bike to work everyday & have an herb garden
- Build an empowering youth camp for Leon students
One Time Todos & Projects:
- Purchase good mattress, pillows, lights, curtains, sheets, and air filter
- Schedule monthly massages and counseling sessions, schedule nails and hair every three months
- Clean out contacts and keep in touch with healthy relations by getting correct special dates (anniversaries & birthdays) and addresses, get pretty stationary
- Organize files, photos, and accounts online and in filing cabinet
- Interview people, do research, and gather all Dad’s family information
- Keep my closet under 100 items (including shoes)
- Take grandma on a trip
By the end of 2020 I will have a solid daily routine that includes a lot of tracking and journaling, all loans paid off, know how to play piano, be 1/3 of the way through my degree, run a summer camp, write a book, have a capsule closet, and wake up each day feeling whole and refreshed.
Thank you for sticking it out and reading through all six parts and if you haven’t done so yet, check them out!
You might find something that helps you accomplish your goals and become {You Empowered}.
It is with much delight that I close out this series, knowing it is the beginning of a 364 day journey to a stronger, more balanced version of myself.
Best of luck with your goals & remember you are good enough!!
